There are a variety of different reasons why divorce happens, especially since one couple has a different dynamic than the next. The commonly known statistic for divorce is that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and many believe that this only applies to young couples. However, the baby boomer generation is seeking out divorce more than people realize. This is known as “gray divorce” and the number has doubled over the last 20 years. Regardless of the husband and wife’s ages, there are a few common denominators that often lead to divorce.
Getting married for the wrong reason. Often times those who decide to get divorced realize that they should not have gotten married in the first place. This can be for a variety of reasons such as social pressure to get married, feeling obligated to tie the knot after having a child together, or getting caught up in the romance. The desire to divorce is often mutual by both parties in these sorts of situations.
- Infidelity. Cheating on a spouse can break even the strongest of relationships. Infidelity breeds distrust and can make people feel inadequate. This is often caused by intimacy issues, which is more important than many people realize. Divorces due to infidelity are highly common even though some couples try to stay together after affairs have occurred.
- Loss of Identity. It is a well-known fact that when couples have been together for an extended period of time, they become somewhat dependent on each other, They get used to having the other around and it can feel odd if things change. Although relying on another is common, it can also become unhealthy. Those who spend too much time with their partner can feel as if they are no longer an individual. Many will choose divorce as a way to gain back their independence.
- Constant Conflict. Being unhappy in your relationship is the basis for divorce and arguing is often at the root of this unhappiness. Marriage is a difficult commitment to maintain, especially since you live together and share everything. An excessive amount of conflict can also make it difficult to have the motivation to talk through your differences.
- Financial Burdens. Monetary stress can make a perfect relationship break into pieces. Financial problems can be difficult to fix because it often takes time to do so. This can become an even larger conflict if one spouse works and the other does not. The working spouse can feel as if the pressure is only on their shoulders and may blame their partner for that stress.
Contact an Illinois Divorce Attorney for Help
Regardless of the reason for wanting a divorce, it is important to seek out an experienced attorney for assistance. At Shaw Family Law, we handle a variety of different situations. If you are considering divorce, contact a Kane County divorce attorney at 630-584-5550 for a free consultation.