All new parents experience nervousness before finally having their child, especially with a 9-month waiting period. Adoptive parents have the same pre-day jitters though they usually have a much longer waiting period. This additional time can intensify the anxiety since adoptive parents are not actively involved in the child’s birth. Though the preparation may be slightly different for adoptive parents, there are measures that can be taken to fill the time spent waiting for their child.
- Enjoy your child-less freedom while you can: Many couples look forward to the change in lifestyle that a child will bring to their relationship. Though adopting a child is an exciting new addition to a relationship, many parents do not realize just how much their lives will change once a child is added to the mix. Go on the vacation you have always dreamed of or throw a loud party at your house because soon your life will become less selfish and more selfless for the sake of your child.
- Spend time getting to know your child: This may seem like a silly thing to do since you will get to know your child when your adoption is official; however, it is important to know your child’s previous life and background. Having a good understanding their background aids adoptive parents in formulating their parenting styles and having a greater understanding of their child.
- Set up a support system in advance: Many new parents do not realize how difficult raising a child can be. While parenting is extremely rewarding, it can be a challenge to manage alone. It is important to have a support system in place before you pick up your child in order to make the lifestyle transition easier.
- Mentally prepare yourself for the child’s adjustment: Adopting a child is one of the most exciting days of a parent’s life. Though you may be ready for your child to come home, children usually take time to adjust to the new lifestyle. Being mentally prepared for slight discomfort from your child is crucial in handling the situation as it happens. Some parents will send the child care packages before the adoption day to begin the acclimation process.
Contact an Illinois Adoption Attorney for Help
If you are considering adoption, legal help is necessary to ease the sometimes lengthy process. At Shaw Family Law, P.C., we understand that adoption can be a difficult and emotional process for all the people involved. Our firm helps relieve the stress of the legal portion of the process so that families can enjoy the rest of it. Contact our Kane County adoption attorneys for a free consultation at 630-584-5550.